Avoiding Resentment in a Relationship

One of my sorority sisters posted a question on Facebook asking what people do better as a result of being married. The topic caught fire as everyone chimed in. I responded with: 1. Being able to understand that not all battles are worthy of being fought. Before engaging in a fight or an argument, asking…

Gasp… I Met My Husband On Social Media!

Earlier this week, I posted a photo of a little Twitter themed pen container and shared that I met my husband on Twitter. I received several comments – “What?” “How?” and decided that I’d write a blog about it. It’s my favorite story that I never tire of telling… The year was 2009. I was…

Love Jones 

We often tell kids not to believe movies. It’s imaginary. It’s not real. It can set up the wrong expectations. The Year was 1997. I was in middle school, but I was an avid writer – of journals & poetry. 4 years earlier I saw Poetic Justice which made me fall in love with the…

The Tea On Celebrities…

I have had the pleasure of working closely with and being in intimate settings with “celebrities.” The people who grace magazine covers, whose endorsement of a product or place equals support from the masses and who I hear whispered about “you know he’s this…” while I internally shake my head, because I know that the…

Stop Undervaluing Being An Employee!!!

I love Tony Gaskins but I hate this quote: In 2017, there is this perception that everyone should be an entrepreneur and I strongly disagree. Especially because people glamorize and have a misperception of what it means to be an entrepreneur. People think becoming an entrepreneur means: (1) I can get up when I want…

Last Minute Gift Ideas

For The Travel Enthusiasts Passport Holder and Luggage Tag via Nordstrom. For The Beauty Lover: I actually purchased a few of these Santa Tins filled with my favorite lush product: Bath Bombs! You drop the bath bomb into the bath and they create aromatic, skin-soothing/moisturizing magic. They are also made from all natural products! I’ve…

Don’t Hurt (or Blame) Yourself…

I’m a serial monogamist. I can count on one hand (or maybe a hand and a half 😉 the number of serious relationships I’ve had. In between those relationships, when I was courting, I used to write letters to the guys I was interested in. Caption: Me at 17 years old.  I was very Afrocentric….

Invest In People Who Invest In You…

I came across this graphic on Pinterest and it inspired a longer blog. When people invest in you, it is important that you return the investment, either to them or to someone else. This is what it looks like when someone invests in you: (1) Time If someone makes time in their schedule to speak to…

ï»żTransformational vs. Transactional Relationships 

Transformational– Someone gives you something without expecting to receive something. – A person shares their gifts with you free of charge or in exchange for something you do for them.  – A person “consults” with you by offering you knowledge, resources and advice to help you.  – A person makes an important introduction to someone…

The Mountains In The Distance…

I’m sitting here, 15 floors up in my hotel looking out of my window from the city of Oakland. The Warriors won Game 3 last night. From this perspective I can see everything that is happening on the ground. Cars driving on the interstate. People who look like ants walking across the street, and the…

Spotting & Blocking The Toxic People…

“Toxic people will not be changed by the alchemy of your kindness. Yes, be kind, but move on swiftly and let life be their educator.” – Brendon Burchard When I was little girl, I found a bird with a broken wing outside the front porch of my grandmother’s house, where I was living at the…

Is Your Relationship Distracting Or Hindering You?

Caption: Mr. & Mrs. Smith Suited & Booted – Photo by Juan Anthony Images! My hubby is on an amazing trip to Colombia right now. While he’s away, I miss him terribly! One of my friends said “it must be so hard for you,” referring to my hubby’s trip. I replied “actually it’s not” and…