Down In The DMs: 20 Ways To Be A Better Social Media Supporter


People stay in my inboxes (all 10 of them) with requests. My voicemails. My text messages and my DMs.

Requests to post flyers.

Requests for free tickets to concerts.

Requests to make a donation.

Requests to “pick my brain.”

Requests for free consultations.

And there was that one time that somebody requested some Size 10 Yeezys.

I utilize my personal social media platforms to promote causes outside of Donda’s House that I am passionate about and I even employ my hubby to use his massive personal platform to do the same.

Most of the time I oblige, because that’s just the kind of person that I am. Except in the case of the Yeezys, because it was a complete stranger, and hell, even I don’t have any. Plus the message totally creeped me out, but I digress.

I wrote a whole blog rant about reciprocity and transactional relationships here. This message isn’t targeted at any one specifically, it’s more of a PSA because this happens to me and other organizational leaders that I know all of the time.

Before you ask someone to post something, ask yourself if you’ve been “social media supportive (sms).” Have you shared the posts that they’ve asked to be shared? Have you liked posts they’ve posted? 

It doesn’t have to come down to a post-for-post or like-for-like with that individual person, but are you a social media team player, or do you “hog” your engagement?

As a nonprofit administrator/social entrepreneur, I am here to tell you that social media engagement is gold!

Although it only takes a second to “like” or to “share” someone’s post, it translates into so much value for us.

Engagement is converted into influence, and influence equals sponsorship support, it equals access to key influencers and brands and it equals a larger “megaphone” to amplify our events and ultimately our impact.

I’m theoretically petty, but I’m not petty in practice so here are some ways that you can be sms, so I don’t have to smdh:

(1) Like an organization or business page on Facebook.

(2) Follow an organization on Instagram and/or Twitter.

(3) On Facebook, “like” a post.

(4) On Facebook, “share” a post (especially if someone says “please share.”)

(5) On Facebook, click “interested” in an event, and if you’re planning to go click “going.”

(6) On Twitter, click “retweet.”

(7) If you see something that you like or have a positive experience with an organization or a business, leave a comment on their wall, or leave a positive review.

(8) Click “Follow” on LinkedIn.

(9) On Instagram click “like” and if you have a repost app, repost images or videos that you like.

(10) Subscribe to an organization’s or brand’s YOUTube page.

(11) Comments are like social media donations. Leave them! Even if it’s one word like “dope.”

(12) Tag or mention an organization in your post. This attracts other people to said organization.

(13) Help recruit! If you see something that applies to someone that you know TAG that person, so that you can connect them to the organization.

(14) Subscribe to the organization’s e-mail list.

(15) Share the donation link (If I see ONE MORE GoFundMe link…) When you share an organization’s link, it’s like a GoFundUs. It helps lots of people. Please share!

(16) When they ask a question, or ask for help even if you can’t personally help, please share the post or tweet. Someone in your network may be able to help or answer the question/call.

(17) If you do make a request, ask them if there is anything that you can share OR leave the door open for them to reach out in the future to ask you to share something.

(18) Orgs are always looking for funding. If you come across a grant or other funding opportunity, share it with the appropriate organization. When I come across funding opportunities I share it with other organizations.

(19) Sign-up to volunteer if you have the time. Even if it’s for one day or one project, orgs can always use an extra pair of hands.

(20) Donate. Every single dollar counts.

It is generally inappropriate to ask another nonprofit to use their platforms to post fundraisers unless requested, and it is definitely not in good taste when the organization currently has an active campaign (which for most nonprofits is all of the time).

Exhale. That felt good! Please reach out if you have any questions. You are officially qualified to be a Social Media Advocate/Supporter of the organizations, businesses and brands you like. 😉


Handling Business Yandy Smith Style…


I watch Love & Hip Hop . I’ve watched the show since Season 1. For me reality TV shows are like modern day soap operas, the only difference is the characters are personas that actually exists rather than fictional characters.

This past week I was thoroughly impressed how Yandy Smith handled a probable conflict with Rashidah Ali. Basically, Yandy was at an event, and Rashidah approached her because she had heard from another cast member that Yandy’s boyfriend/child’s father had been talking about her negatively. Yandy had been told by her boyfriend that he had a sexual relationship with Rashidah in the past.

Yandy handled the situation very maturely telling Rashidah, “I’m a business woman… I’m gonna handle you like business.” She continued to tell her that it wasn’t the appropriate time or the venue to address her concerns, especially considering that it was Rashidah’s shoe launch event. In an off camera interview, Yandy discussed how she would never allow another person to make her “act out of character.”


I’m a strict follower of that philosophy as well. Rashidah wanted nothing more than to make Yandy angry or hurt her feelings, because she was hurt. Yandy wouldn’t give Rashidah the pleasure which ultimately protected her reputation and her brand. Not to mention the fact that if you have a verbal or a physical confrontation as a grown woman – the stakes are higher and the consequences are steeper, and unless your life is threatened, it’s really not worth the headache.

Some conversations just don’t belong in the workplace, and when you’re a business woman and a professional, you have to understand that your character and the ability to control your emotions ranks high. You can’t be a PR person and not know how to handle yourself in public. You can’t be an entrepreneur who airs your dirty laundry all over social media. Damage control is so much easier when you’re not the one doing the damage…

Yandy Smith blogs for Black Enterprise here: and she owns an accessories line called Everything Girls love, which you can find here:

How To Get A Teaching Job – Or Any Job For That Matter

My first year out of college, I was able to obtain an interview at 10 schools and I received job offers at all 10 schools. I started working at the age of 12 (at McDonald’s – long story), and (thankfully) have never been unemployed since. I think I’ve got this job-hunting thing down to a science. While the tips below are geared toward individuals looking for teaching jobs, many of the tips can apply to job hunting in most fields. If you have any follow up questions PLEASE ask!

  1. Direct your resume to a specific person & to the right person. In High Schools the department chair is usually in control of the hiring process. In elementary schools, there is sometimes a grade level coordinator or something of that nature. While it is great to send your resume to the principal, you should also contact the school to send a resume directly to the appropriate person – be sure to ask for the spelling of their name and whether they are male or female (I can’t tell you how many times I’ve received something sent to Mr. Donnie Smith because I have a masculine name. I don’t take it personal but it lets me know the person has no idea who I am lol).
  2. A resume is not enough to make you stand out from the crowd. You should also include a mini-portfolio that includes recommendation letters (if you’re new to the field), student work, lesson plans, sample handouts, and a discipline/classroom management plan (especially if you’re new to the field). Also include a cover letter that discusses what you believe as a teacher and why you know you’d be a great match for that particular school. Research the school using the web and include their mission state or other personalized info. Don’t just write a form letter to pass out, make it personal!
  3. Practice interviewing. Most interviews are done panel style so there are multiple people interviewing you at once. I sat in on teacher interviews at my job this year and while I’m sure that each of the candidates were stellar in the classroom that energy and passion did not always translate into the interview. Consider some of the more difficult questions like “What is one of your weaknesses,” or “Why do you want to leave the school you’re currently at” if you’re hoping to switch schools. Mock interviewing allows you to train your body and your mind so that you won’t expose your anxiety or nerves. Think of it as a dress rehearsal for the real deal.
  4. Go to job fairs. There are some schools that hire on the spot at job fairs. This is a great opportunity to find out what schools are out there and to get your feet wet interviewing.
  5. Keep in touch with your professors, your advisors and your dean. You’d be surprised to learn how connected your professors are to schools. Keep a good relationship with them and keep in touch. Let them know you’re looking for employment so they can pull some strings for you.
  6. Get involved in your professional organizations. Kappa Delta Pi, Phi Delta Kappa, National Council of Teachers of English, etc. are all organizations that you can become a member of as a college student. Take advantage of the discounted student membership rate and invest in yourself. If there are conferences happening, attend them. Many of the professional organizations have regional or local chapters – join those. As an active member of your professional organization, you are showing others that you are a serious and committed teacher who is committed to lifelong learning plus you are expanding your professional network.
  7. Be persistent & (humbly) aggressive. It is not enough to mail one resume to a school. You should drop off your resume in person and check on the status regularly. Try to introduce yourself to the principal or other administrative team members. In a world where technology is king, face-to-face interactions go a long way.
  8. You may have to settle. I’ve worked at three schools in my professional career so far. You may have to settle and work at a school that may not be ideal until you work your way up. Look into private, charter, public – everything. Don’t limit yourself. The wider net you cast, the more fish you’re likely to bring in. “Good” schools rarely have openings and when they do, they often look to experienced teachers to hire as opposed to those fresh out of college.
  9. Image is everything. Work with professionals and experienced people on your resume. Get business cards printed. Consider creating a website or electronic portfolio which shows that you value technology. Understand that whatever you do/say will be translated into what you will do/say as a teacher. If you dress inappropriately, administrators will assume that you do that in the classroom. If your resume has grammatical errors, you will be perceived as someone who can’t be taken seriously as a teacher.

10. Be willing to do something else. The skills that you develop as a teacher can be used outside of the classroom. If you can’t find a teaching job your first year, consider looking into youth programs and nonprofits in your area where you can still work with children in some capacity. Consider subbing. Good subs are often the first round of individuals who are looked at to fill full-time positions should they become available because they figure you know the school and you know the students. Start your job search early (January or February) and continue to reach out to schools until you find a job.

That’s All For Now! Good luck this year!

Photo Screen Room Divider… Nice Way to Share Your Pics!

Most people have a few picture frames laying around, but there are some other fun ways to share your pics. I came across this photo screen room divider via Craigslist for $10.00!!!

It looks something like this:

Since my husband works in the music industry, he has a TON of photos with celebs and we were trying to figure out where we were going to put this “Wall of  Fame” in our home. Our photo screen room divider was the perfect solution! All of the photos are printed in a Matte (non glossy) 5 x 7, and I matted them on my own off white cardstock. It lives in the dining room right now. Here is the finished product:

Amazon has a few options:

These things retail for no less than $100.00, so you may want to try to find one on Craigslist or at a garage sale.

Keeping Up With Creative Projects

Whatever your hobby, you probably have multiple projects going on at once.

I’m a lister, so I keep a list of everything I’m working on. Here are my multiple projects that I’m currently working on:

  1. Project Life 2012
  2. Retirement Gift for Coworker
  3. Motorcycle Diaries (The Adventures of My Husband & I with our motorcycles)
  4. Home Album (Decor/Garden Projects in my new home)
  5. Step Son’s Book (To be given to him on either his 18th or 21st Birthday – He’s 13 now)
  6. Step Daughter’s Book (To be given to her on either her 18th or 21st Birthday – She’s 4 now)
  7. Autobiography (The album where I share my experiences/thoughts)

This list allows me to know what I have going on creatively at all times. My most recent completed projects included:

  1. Graduation Gifts for two Graduating Seniors
  2. Baby Shower Gifts (one was a 12 x 12 Frame and the other was a baby book)
  3. Mother’s Day Gift Album for my mom

This summer I will be trying a few new things including:

  1. Scrapbooking While Traveling
  2. My first 8 1/2 by 11 Album
  3. An altered tray

Of course I will keep you guys posted on my progress! Happy Crafting!

Spring Cleaning – Figuring Out Those Files

First, it started with me looking for a list that I had written last week. Next thing I knew I couldn’t find the replacement debit cards. I was disorganized and when I get disorganized I feel a lack of control and a lack of focus. I’ve also been re-reading one of my favorite books, David Allen’s Getting Things Done which is a great productivity/time management system.Then I looked at the calendar and noticed it was March and time for a little Spring Cleaning!

Caption: Iris Stackable File Box (two came in a pack from Office Max)

Caption: In Place Tab View Hanging Files (from Office Max) What I love about these hanging files is that you can clearly see the label tab on the folders inside. Traditional hanging files “hide” the label tab.

Caption: In Place File Folders (100% recycled) they had a few different typesincluding super heavy/reinforced folders.

Caption: File Folder Labels

I purchased about 100 folders, and about 100 hanging file folders. One of the tips from Getting Things Done is to only use one folder per hanging file folder. That way, folders aren’t overcrowded and you don’t have to worry about re-alphabetizing things. What a brilliant system! The folders slide so easily! Now I’ve had an alphabetized filing system for about 6 or 7 years now so that wasn’t the issue. What wasn’t working for me was actually filing documents on a regular basis so they piled up in stacks all over the house. So I’ve decided that I’m going to file things on at least a weekly basis.

As far as labeling the files, here are some of the basics:

  1. Rent/Mortgage (I labeled mine according to my current address)
  2. Car Insurance
  3. Car Info
  4. Check Stubs
  5. Utilities (I have one for each utility – Electricity, Gas, Cable, etc.)
  6. Work Records
  7. Health Records (one for each member of the fam)
  8. Inactive Accounts (for all accounts that are no longer in existence)
  9. Retirement
  10. Receipts (with one folder for each year)
  11. Cell Phone (label it with the name of your cell phone company)
  12. Student Loans
  13. Taxes (one folder for each year)
  14. Warranty
  15. Banking Accounts (one folder for each account)

So that’s my basic system. I have more files that have more personal labels. Basically, if you are receiving an invoice, a bill or regular correspondence about something or someone, you probably need a file for it. Be sure to keep your folders in alpha order so that you can easily find things. I’m using portable file boxes but eventually I plan to get a file cabinent or credenza. A file cabinet would be easier to use to store things so it will most likely be that solution.

Another step in this process, after you’ve gathered your materials is to collect all loose papers from around your home and put them in one place. For me that ended up being an IKEA Basket that I purchased 10 or so years ago. Here is the final stack of papers to sort through & file:

Be sure to keep a trash can nearby. As long as a document doesn’t include any sensitive info (Social Security Number, Bank Accounts, Date of births, passwords, etc.) then you can toss it in the trash. You may want to invest in a good quality shredder where you can truly get rid of those documents you no longer need without compromising your identity.

It took about 4 hours to gather all of the paper into the basket and sort it into the files. Here is the final product:

Here are a few links to other organization posts I’ve written:

Working Woman’s Time Management System:

Inbox Zero Project:

Tonight, I’m Cleaning Out My Closet:

Google Reader

Getting Organized/Work Edition:

Project Organization: Home Management/Family Binder (TUTORIAL):

Project Organization: Financial Documents:

Project Organization: Countertop Action File:

Thanks for reading! Happy Spring Cleaning! Daylight savings happens in 1 week!

How To Scrapbook (Free E-Book)

As a reward for completing my first semester final grades I decided to finally put together my free Guide for Scrapbooking: How to Scrapbook. Here is a screenshot of the cover:


Over the last few months I’ve come across so many women who ask me “How can I get started?” “Where can I shop for supplies?” or “What do I need to get started?” This free e-book is designed for the novice who’d like to finally take that box of photos and put something together. It is the first of many to come and some of the chapters are entitled:

1. Basic Supply List

2. Advanced Supply List

3. Places to Shop

4. Where To Look For Inspiration

at only 11 pages it’s a quick read loaded with photos from my own collection. Please download it and share it with others and most of all, let me know what you think about it!

To get your free copy of How to Scrapbook click here: