How To Create Room In Your Life For What You Really Want…

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Caption: Earlier this week my husband & I wrote down five intentions, tied them on sticks and then stuck them in our plants. Whenever we water our plants, it is a physical reminder to water our intentions. 

When you ask yourself what do you truly want, what comes to mind?

Perhaps you want to be a full-time entrepreneur. Maybe the photo of a lifetime love popped up. It may not be that deep for you. Maybe you’re up for a promotion at your job? You’re trying to muster up the courage to ask for a raise? Perhaps life is good and you’re looking for less… less stress… less pain… less struggle.

Either way it goes, I truly believe that if we are to get the things we want (or remove the things we don’t want) we have to create room; literal space to welcome the thing, the person and/or the energy into our lives.

PHYSICAL SPACE

If your physical space is cluttered, you don’t have room to add anything. I’d strongly suggest doing a deep clean – physically removing trash, papers you no longer need and dust to give whatever you are looking for a landing strip in your life. Have you ever lost something and went on a rampage to find it only to discover that it was hiding in plain site? Here are some additional ways you can make room physically for what you want:

A. A dedicated journal or notebook. – Writing things down takes it out of your mind and brings it into the real world.

B. Space on a shelf. – The simple act of creating space on a shelf, is a dedicated action to your desired outcome.

C. A basket or container – Similar to the idea of creating space on a shelf. This may be an option for those who are limited in space. This is also great if you find you need to be mobile. I have containers for my scrapbook stuff, containers for my jewelry making, and even containers for my spiritual tools – incense, essential oils, etc.

D. A Room – I know people who have prayer closets or prayer rooms. Craft rooms, etc. Dedicating an entire room to your work, or to something else that you care about is symbolic of how much something means to you and the priority it has in your life.

MENTAL SPACE 

The human mind is powerful. Did you know that your body cannot tell the difference between an action it performed in real life and an action it simulated or visualized. It is what made Muhammad Ali one of the greatest to ever do it. Our minds are the gardens that either grow (or kill) our seeds. Here are some ideas to create mental space for your desired outcomes:

A. Time on your calendar. – Dedicated 15 minutes, 30 minutes, an hour a day, a week or a month to your dreams. Protect that sacred time and honor it. Even if you are just spending time with yourself, add it to your calendar like you would any other appointment. Show up for yourself. Show up for your dreams.

B. Mastermind conversations – A mastermind conversation is strictly focused on meeting your goal. Meet with your mentors. Meet with the experts. Spend some time with the people who can help you move the needle.

C. Seminars/Workshops – If you want to start a business, attend workshops and seminars. There are SBA’s in every state that provide free programs and workshops that can help you actualize your dream. Go on Eventbrite and search for free events connected to your dream. Find others who share similar passions, subscribe to e-mail lists, etc.

D. Read books & listen to podcasts – The time you spend reading a book and listening to podcasts can really make the difference in helping you to “level up.” You can often filter podcasts by topic – lifestyle, business, etc. Often the people who are the leaders of a particular field host podcasts.

EMOTIONAL SPACE

Moods are magnets. If you feel motivated, you will attract more motivational energy. If you feel like a loser, you will attract loser energy (be careful with that one, because the energy may come in many forms – personal or professional). Do whatever you can to manage and move your moods. Here are my recommendations:

A. Affirmations – write your own or find them online. Repeat them at least a few times daily. Carry them in your purse. Say them when you first wake up or before you go to bed.

B. Mood Boards or Vision Boards – Create a visual of your desired outcomes and display the board somewhere you’ll see it everyday. I’ve written extensively about vision boards. Start here. I collect things all year that resonate with me and that represent what I’d like in my life the following year. I spend New Year’s Eve (or the last week of the year) taking down last year’s Vision Board, and putting up my new vision board before midnight. I also keep the contents in my old board in a scrapbook, because I believe that even when I take them down, I am still holding space for those things to come into my life.

C. Convos with loved ones. My best girlfriends and my husband are my greatest cheerleaders. When a seed starts to sprout I speak to them because they share in my excitement and my joy. Most of all, they encourage me to go for it, and that’s the kind of emotional energy you need when your goals and dreams and ideas are in their infant stages.

D. Remove the barriers. Get rid of the excuses. Turn down the volume of the naysayers (not those offering constructive criticism, but those who are just negative and haters for no other reason than to be petty, shady and ugly). When I decided to start pursuing a healthier lifestyle 9 weeks ago, I knew that if I had to leave the house I’d be less likely to work out. I purchased a treadmill and set it up in the basement to remove that barrier or that excuse.

SPIRITUAL SPACE

I believe that our desired outcomes must align with the energies and the realities of the universe. We work in collaboration with the universe and all of the things and the beings that are a part of it. For example, if you are pursuing a promotion, you often aren’t the only one being considered for that promotion. It is usually you and at least one other person. If you don’t get it, it just means that it wasn’t for you and it was for the other person. You are not lacking in any way or wrong in any way or undeserving in any way. Your path is just different and that particular thing was not for you at least not at the moment. If you get the promotion, the other person has to remember that same. Entitlement is a helluva drug. The more that we can detach our personal egos, feelings and lives from something, the happier, freer and lighter we become. The only thing that belongs to you is your body. Anything else that you receive is a gift from the universe. Here are my recommendations for how you can be in better collaboration with the universe.

A. Prayer – Prayer is the language that spirit speaks. Write your prayers. Say them out loud. Send your desires and your hopes and your dreams to the spirit world with love and humility.

B. Meditation – I see prayer as sending messages to the universe, to God, to our ancestors. Meditation is for them to speak back. Meditation is when we focus ourselves. It is when we are still enough to align and realign our energy with the flow of the universe. Guided meditation is super helpful when you’re just getting started. There are tons of apps that can help you with this if you need assistance. Also if you are on Spotify, they have a host of meditation playlists and guided meditations that you can listen to.

C. Open your heart and open your mind. – Open your heart to the gift of friendship, the gift of love and the gift of abundance. If you are feeling paranoid, distrustful, bitter or fearful – you need to process that. Talk to a counselor or therapist. Write in a journal. Release those energies. It is said that fear and faith cannot occupy the same space at the same time. The same goes with your mind. If someone is sharing information or resources for you and all you can do is interrupt them or think about the millions of ways of why you can’t do it or it can’t be done, your mind needs to be opened. I am not saying that any of this is easy. When I first met my husband as my boyfriend I had a laundry list of the reasons that marriage was a mistake and a bad idea… and I shared it with him! I was carrying the baggage of abuse and of a failed marriage and thank God that he saw past all of that fog to my heart and true desires. He and I will be celebrating 9 years of marriage next year!

Every day I try to remove those things that are no longer serving my highest good out of my life to make room for those things that I truly need and want in my life. I hope this was helpful and I hope that your dreams are a little closer to being real today than they were yesterday! You are a powerful being with the capacity to transform your life. Transformation is not easy and it is certainly not always fast. Be patient with yourself. Give yourself some grace. Take it one action at a time and before you know it, it will be done!

New Moon in Libra: Insight, Rituals + More

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Caption: This beautiful image is by Sheeba Maya Art.

Today is a new moon in Libra. Happy New Moon!

Here are some of my rituals:

  • Clean my altar (I use Method’s All Purpose Honey Crisp Cleaner).
  • Put crystals on my altar that correspond to the new moon. I decided on:
    • Bloodstone
    • Citrine
    • Rose Quartz
    • Black Tourmaline
    • Sapphire
    • Tourmalinated Quartz
  • Write new moon intentions connected to the energy of the sign
  • Sweep & mop floor with boiling hot water (I actually boil the water on the stove for 30 minutes before putting it into my mop bucket) plus a few capfuls of Florida Water + Cleanser (Fabuloso is my favorite – it smells divine).
  • Smudge by body & all entrances to my home including the doors and windows on the first floor.
  • Take a bath with herbs, florals & essential oils.
  • Burn a candle. Tonight, as close as possible to the time the new moon actually starts I will be burning an Air Element candle from Unicorn Manor.
  • I shifted my furniture around to put my longer couch (comfy for sleeps and naps directly in front of my tv, and moved the love seat to it’s place). Shifting furniture shifts energy.

Here is some of the insight from from my favorite astrologers & energy workers:

“…transmute your Sh$t into compost, my love.” – Jessica Lanyadoo

“New moons happen when the sun (your identity) and the moon (your feels) are exactly aligned. This marks a time for openness, beginnings and clarity.” – Jessica Lanyadoo. Read more from Jessica here.

“Sometimes it’s safer to repress our pain than to witness it. In order to survive we push it down for days. Decades. Lifetimes. Generations. But then a moment comes along that shatters the vaults we’ve been harboring our storise within.” – Chani Nicholas. Read more from Chani here.

“No matter if we’re being called to start something new or let something go, our focus will be on whether it’s worth it. This theme will apply especially to relationships, our sense of self-worth, our personal values, and our relationship to money.” – Mecca Woods. Read more from Mecca here. Also Mecca just published a phenomenal & practical book about astrology and it’s relationship to love, career and wellness. I purchased a copy and highly encourage you to do the same here.

“We are in relationship with every single thing in our lives, and each relationship is our sacred mirror of Reflection.” Mystic Mamma provides a literature review of some of the best astrological advice out there. Read more here.

I’ve created a list called “Sources of Light” on Twitter featuring 41 healers, astrologers, energy workers, etc. I encourage you to subscribe to the list if you’re looking for more!

 

 

Crystal Bouquet

I’ve picked up a lot of loose gemstones over the years. Yesterday, my husband & I took a walk through a Forest Preserve and I grabbed a bunch of sticks with a vision in mind: a crystal bouquet.

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I love flowers and I usually keep fresh flowers in my home. While walking I got the idea to make a crystal bouquet. The great thing about a Crystal Bouquet is that it will live forever. Here is the finished product:

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This Crystal Bouquet includes the following gemstones:

  1. Tiger’s Eye
  2. Bloodstone
  3. Carnelian
  4. Clear Quartz
  5. Hematite
  6. Turquoise
  7. Garnet
  8. Citrine
  9. Pyrite
  10. Emerald
  11. White Agate
  12. Black Tourmaline
  13. Dalmation Jasper
  14. Green Aventurine
  15. Smoky Quartz

I used copper wire to attach the stones to the sticks. I’m planning on making more crystal bouquets to put around my house. This first one lives in my kitchen.

 

Designs By DNS… My New Jewelry Collection

In the spring of 2014, my friend Dana Todd Pope complimented me on the jewelry I had on at the time. She also told me that my accessories are always amazing and that one day I’d “design my own collection.” I remember feeling so good that someone even noticed and my friend Dana is an incredible artist so the compliment meant even more coming from her.

When I was in High School I had a job working at Marshall Fields at the Flagship store in downtown Minneapolis. My assignment? The accessories counter. I sold belts, scarves and other outfit accents. I enjoyed when my clients of all ages would come in and need my assistance finding the perfect scarf or belt to go with their outfits. I was about 16 years old and it was then that I learned how the accessories really make the outfit.

I remember being into crystals as a little girl, but recently returned back to my love of them. I have a great collection of loose stones but my favorite way to work with the energy of the stones is through wearing them. I’ve amassed a pretty impressive collection of bracelets, pendants and rings. One of the things that I’ve always loved is purse charms, but I had not seen purse charms made out of crystals.

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Caption: My collection of non-crystal purse charms. I wear one of them daily with my bags. 

All summer I’ve been going through the process of learning about creating jewelry. Experimenting with different tools and supplies. I’ve finally gotten to a place where I’m ready to begin selling and launched my Designs by DNS collection yesterday! Here are some of the pieces currently available:

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Each of my pieces use Genuine Gemstones and each is created around certain energies. The purse charms are centered around the energies of love, abundance or prosperity. The bracelets are called Crystal Ball Bracelets and have a large stone surrounded by smaller beaded stones. I am excited that to bring another offering to the world and I am looking forward to helping people ROCK their magic as I have done and will continue to do! I’d also like to thank my friend Dana again for her words of affirmation AND for being my first customer! I’m so grateful and appreciate!

New Moon in Gemini Tips…

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Photo Courtesy of Space.com

They say it takes 10,000 hours to become a master. If you do the math and spend one hour a day studying something that is around 27 years. At 34 years old I can’t think of anything that I would consider myself a master of. Maybe writing, maybe teaching, maybe learning… but even with teaching – methodologies, what we know about the brain and the social, political and environmental contexts constantly change, so I don’t know if one is ever really a “Master Teacher.” A master teacher is ultimately truly a master student. This week, I have realized that I suffer from “Oh, squirrel!” brain, and I’m learning to make peace with that. I also launched a new professional website, donnienicolesmith.com.

At first I was going to get rid of this site, but then I realized I still need this digital studio and lab to think out loud. DonnieNicoleSmith.com will be reserved for professional, business and “suited & booted” things. DonnieNicole will be reserved for social commentary, magic, astrology and all of the other glitter, stardust and “oh squirrel” things.

Yesterday there was a New Moon in Gemini. I have Gemini in a couple of places in my chart including my ascendant. I am “Gemini Rising.” So the astrology this month is going to be super strong for me. I am by no means an astrological expert, but I’ve been studying long enough (about 3 years) to navigate the basics.

My rituals included:

  • Burning a New Moon in Gemini Candle from House of Intuition.
  • Burning sage essential oil in my oil diffuser and lavendar cone incense.
  • Adding Agate, Green Aventurine and Citrine to my altar (all stones with correspondences to Mercury). All astrological signs have a ruling planet. Gemini’s ruling planet is Mercury.
  • Writing down my intentions connected to the areas of my life that Mercury influences:
    • Communication
    • Information
    • Networking
    • Travel
    • Trade
    • Merchants
    • Commerce
  • Remember that every month there is a new moon and a full moon. The new moon is a good time to plant seeds, begin new projects, vision, dream, etc. We’ll talk about the full moon when it arrives. Whatever starts at the new moon will be reviewed or “closed” in 6 months at the full moon. It is helpful to keep track of intentions and then six months later to read back over your intentions and do some reflections around lessons learned, insight, clarity, etc. Life is the greatest teacher but it moves so fast, unless we have ways to capture what’s happening and reflect, we will continue to find ourselves reliving the same cycles – in the same way that the sun rises and sets, every single day. Although the sun rises and sets everyday – new things are happening – temperatures change, people are born, and people transition, seeds are being planted, and fruit is being harvested. If we don’t pay attention, we could make the assumption (and mistake) that today is just like yesterday, and the day before that, and the day before that…
  • Correspondences are like time tested formulas or prescriptions for calling forth and working with certain energies. When researching correspondences, I generally try to confirm it in at least two or 3 reputable sources before using or trusting the information. I keep a binder/notebook of correspondences organized by intention (protection, love, creativity, etc.).
  • The window for New Moon Rituals is 3 days before to 3 days after.

Most professional astrologers say that the most impactful elements of your birth chart are your Sun Sign (the one that most people know by heart), your Rising Sign (some astrologers say that this is more important than your sun sign and will provide more accurate insight) and your Moon Sign (provides insight on how you process and deal with your emotions).

Here are some helpful articles and resources for understanding how the New Moon in Gemini may influence and impact you:

Emotionally Intense New Supermoon causing major shifts & disruption via Elephant Journal. 

Affirmation Horoscopes via Chani Nicholas. If you have the opportunity to purchase one of Chani’s courses please do so. I am a regular customer because not only does she provide good information, she is a great instructor/teacher. Her horoscopes and astrological advice really allows you to personalize the information!

Jessica Lanyadoo Horoscopes via The Hoodwitch.

New Moon in Gemini via Mystic Mamma.

Happy New Moon!!!