The Personal Is Political…

A few days ago, one of my favorite bloggers and scrapbookers released an extremely personal statement on her blog. Ali Edwards & her husband are going through a divorce. I was moved by her public announcement because she literally has thousands of fans and scrapbook enthusiasts and in one moment she decided to be vulnerable…

My Spin on “Why Wasn’t I Good Enough”?

Why Wasn’t I Good Enough, was a particularly interesting post for me because many women feel that way. For whatever reason when a relationship goes sour women often blame themselves. When I was single I used to say “God is preparing me for something better and protecting me from something worst.” I only had one…

The Carter Bunch: A Look At Lil Wayne’s Blended Family

My husband and I were watching a documentary called “Without a King” about the current King of Swaziland Mswati III. Swaziland is the only country in Africa that has a monarchy. King Mswati III was the son of King Sobhuza II who had 110 wives and 240 children and came into power at the tender…

My Marriage is Different

When we have little to no experience in unchartered territory, the first thing that we look for are “signs.” Signs for what’s appropriate, boundaries that shouldn’t be crossed, and directions to help us figure out (A) where we are and (B) where we’re going. We do the same thing in our relationships – often looking…

Are You Ready For Marriage?

You’ve been with your guy for a long time, you’ve met the fam and perhaps you’re coed roommates. Here is a list of things to think about before you jump the broom: 1. The me becomes we. Many of decisions that you make must now include your partner’s perspective. Everything you do and everything your…

Abusive Vs. Strong Man – Part 1

While watching Real Housewives of Atlanta I was baffled by the relationship between the beautiful model Cynthia Bailey, 43, and her live-in boyfriend Peter Thomas. The two were planning a wedding and in one episode, Peter told Cynthia he had closed his restaurant Uptown and he wasn’t sure how they were going to come up…

A Man’s Perspective on Homewrecking…

2010 has been the year of the “homewrecker…” The label has been tagged to everyone from the anonymous women that Tiger Woods slayed, to R & B sensations like Alicia Keys & Fantasia. I’ve pretty much watched from the sidelines while the comments section of the blogs have torn Alicia Keys, Fantasia and Gabrielle Union…

Married To The Game: The Wives of Professional Athletes

Divorce between regular people is ugly… add cameras and millions of dollars and it gets downright disgusting. Tiger Woods finalized his divorce from Ellen Nordegren this week and it made me think about the marriages and divorces of professional athletes and other celebrities/high profile individuals. I don’t want to get into the debate about whether…

It’s Written All Over Your Face…

You don’t have to say a word… I was looking at some old pictures of myself (circa 2003 – 2008) and I quickly realized that unhappiness, frustration, repression and sadness manifest in your physical person. For me, it looked like acne, a complexion that was a bit off, lots of weight gain (to the tune…

Wifeable – 5 Things That Guys Want

After countless conversations with guys and my own experiences (I’ve been wifed and asked for my hand in marriage more than once, one guy even tried to trap me with a child), I’d like to share some insight on what guys are looking for when they decide to tie the knot. (1) Positive energy &…

Why Did I Get Married Too? A Reflection…

Originally Posted: April 4, 2010 I used to dislike Tyler Perry. I couldn’t get over the Mammy image and the ignorance that I felt like he was spewing. Although comedic, I just want my people to be portrayed in a more balanced manner. We too can be taken seriously, you know. But after “I Can…

When Jump Offs… Jump Off

Originally Posted: March 20, 2010 The latest Wall Post on my Facebook page was one of those annoying facebook apps that said, “Are you wifey, sideline hoe and jump-off: Take The Quiz.” I quickly hit “remove.” I thought about a conversation that bf and I had where we talked about the difference between “wife, wifey,…