New Moon in Libra: Insight, Rituals + More

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Caption: This beautiful image is by Sheeba Maya Art.

Today is a new moon in Libra. Happy New Moon!

Here are some of my rituals:

  • Clean my altar (I use Method’s All Purpose Honey Crisp Cleaner).
  • Put crystals on my altar that correspond to the new moon. I decided on:
    • Bloodstone
    • Citrine
    • Rose Quartz
    • Black Tourmaline
    • Sapphire
    • Tourmalinated Quartz
  • Write new moon intentions connected to the energy of the sign
  • Sweep & mop floor with boiling hot water (I actually boil the water on the stove for 30 minutes before putting it into my mop bucket) plus a few capfuls of Florida Water + Cleanser (Fabuloso is my favorite – it smells divine).
  • Smudge by body & all entrances to my home including the doors and windows on the first floor.
  • Take a bath with herbs, florals & essential oils.
  • Burn a candle. Tonight, as close as possible to the time the new moon actually starts I will be burning an Air Element candle from Unicorn Manor.
  • I shifted my furniture around to put my longer couch (comfy for sleeps and naps directly in front of my tv, and moved the love seat to it’s place). Shifting furniture shifts energy.

Here is some of the insight from from my favorite astrologers & energy workers:

“…transmute your Sh$t into compost, my love.” – Jessica Lanyadoo

“New moons happen when the sun (your identity) and the moon (your feels) are exactly aligned. This marks a time for openness, beginnings and clarity.” – Jessica Lanyadoo. Read more from Jessica here.

“Sometimes it’s safer to repress our pain than to witness it. In order to survive we push it down for days. Decades. Lifetimes. Generations. But then a moment comes along that shatters the vaults we’ve been harboring our storise within.” – Chani Nicholas. Read more from Chani here.

“No matter if we’re being called to start something new or let something go, our focus will be on whether it’s worth it. This theme will apply especially to relationships, our sense of self-worth, our personal values, and our relationship to money.” – Mecca Woods. Read more from Mecca here. Also Mecca just published a phenomenal & practical book about astrology and it’s relationship to love, career and wellness. I purchased a copy and highly encourage you to do the same here.

“We are in relationship with every single thing in our lives, and each relationship is our sacred mirror of Reflection.” Mystic Mamma provides a literature review of some of the best astrological advice out there. Read more here.

I’ve created a list called “Sources of Light” on Twitter featuring 41 healers, astrologers, energy workers, etc. I encourage you to subscribe to the list if you’re looking for more!

 

 

Gel Manicure At Home

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For most of my adult life I have taken the trek to the nail salon every 2 weeks. My preferred treatments include a “no-chip” gel manicure + a classic or traditional pedicure. I enjoy the no-chip gel manicure because I like for my nails to always be polished.

Traditional manicures would never last more than a 2 – 3 days for me because I frequently do chores at home including cleaning my house, washing dishes, etc. The no-chip gel manicures are nice because I can do all of those things but my nails still look freshly done – shiny, chip-free and groomed.

When doing the math, this is the amount of money I’ve spent on salon manis & pedis over the last five years: $10,400.00.

Truthfully I have other financial goals. I’d like to own properties in other cities (with New Orleans being at the top of my list). I’d like to travel more internationally. I’d like to invest more in for-profit ventures. When I look at the money that is going out, I quickly realized that I could take the money I’d spend on one or two salon nail treatments (roughly $80.00 per visit with tip included) to purchase my own supplies and invest that money elsewhere. Here is a list of what I purchased with links on where I purchased them from Amazon:

  1. Cuticle Pusher & Cutter  – Click here to purchase.

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  1. Gellen Gel Polish – Popular Nude Colors Series  – Click here to purchase.

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  1. Gellen Nail Polish – Fall Colors Series 6 – Click here to purchase.
  2. OPI Chocolate Brown (Squeaker of the House) Polish – Click here to purchase.
  3. OPI Bubble Bath Polish (my favorite nude) – Click here to purchase.
  4. OPI Lint Free Nail Wipes (lint free nail wipes are better than traditional cotton balls which leave behind cotton residue) – Click here to purchase.
  5. Professional Nail Soak Off Clips. (used to soak off gel polish) – Click here to purchase. Excited to use these instead of foil.
  6. Polish Organizer Box – Holds 48 bottles. Click here to purchase.
  7. UV LED Nail Lamp (curates gel polish) – Click here to purchase.
  8. Acetone (used to soak off nail polish) – Click here to purchase.
  9. Seche Vite Dry Fast Top Nail Coat (used as a top coat for toe nail polish) – Click here to purchase.
  10. OPI Orange “Freedom of Peach” Color – Click here to purchase.
  11. Gellish  Fantastic Four Kit – Click here to purchase. According to my research this kit goes with almost any brand of gel polish. It includes:

PH Bond – Goes on natural nail, Foundation (base coat for gel polish), Top it Off         (Top Coat) and Nourish (Cuticle Oil.). Each bottle is clearly labeled and the back of the box reveals the cure time for the lamp which was accurate. The Gel Polish also includes the recommended cure time. Essentially after each layer you cure for 60 seconds – 2 minutes, but must use the instructions on the box.

14. Rubbing Alcohol

15. Nail Clipper

16. Nail Buffing Block

17. Nail Brush

Some of the items can be purchased at your local Target, Walmart or other preferred store. Total spent: $198.40, which is the equivalent of 2.5 salon visits for me. I did splurge a little bit on buying multiple bottles of nail polish and gel polish sets. You can cut down on that cost significantly. You also don’t have to purchase the polish organizer. I match my nail colors by the season. In the Fall I love earth tones. In the Winter I do a lot of either greys & dark colors (like navy blues, etc.). I also like splashes of silver. In the Spring I like pastels and in the summer I like bright bold colors and nudes.

Here is the recommended process. Assuming that you’re starting with your natural nails:

STEP BY STEP INSTRUCTIONS FOR GEL MANICURE:

1. Push back cuticles.

2. Clip the nail with clippers & Shape the nail with a nail file.

3. Buff the nail. I personally like the labeled nail buffer blocks that tell you which order to do things. Click here for an example.

4. Wash hands using a nail brush like this.

5. Thoroughly dry hands & nails using a paper towel.

6. Apply 1 thin layer of PH Bond then cure (according to instructions.)

7. Apply 1 thin layer of gel polish of your choice and then cure (according to instructions).

8. Apply second layer of gel polish of your choice and then cure (according to instructions).

9. Apply 1 layer of top coat and then cure (according to instructions).

10. Wipe with a piece of cotton or nail wipe soaked in alcohol to shine.

11. Apply cuticle oil and rub into nail and apply lotion to hands.

12. You should be good to go for 2 weeks.

I will add a section in two weeks about how to remove the Gel Nail polish based on how long it takes me to soak it off using the supplies I purchased. Stay tuned!

Helpful Tip: When shopping on Amazon, I only purchase things that have 4 or more stars. I also read the comments to see what people have to say about the product.

 

 

Crystal Bouquet

I’ve picked up a lot of loose gemstones over the years. Yesterday, my husband & I took a walk through a Forest Preserve and I grabbed a bunch of sticks with a vision in mind: a crystal bouquet.

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I love flowers and I usually keep fresh flowers in my home. While walking I got the idea to make a crystal bouquet. The great thing about a Crystal Bouquet is that it will live forever. Here is the finished product:

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This Crystal Bouquet includes the following gemstones:

  1. Tiger’s Eye
  2. Bloodstone
  3. Carnelian
  4. Clear Quartz
  5. Hematite
  6. Turquoise
  7. Garnet
  8. Citrine
  9. Pyrite
  10. Emerald
  11. White Agate
  12. Black Tourmaline
  13. Dalmation Jasper
  14. Green Aventurine
  15. Smoky Quartz

I used copper wire to attach the stones to the sticks. I’m planning on making more crystal bouquets to put around my house. This first one lives in my kitchen.

 

Ushering In A New Season

I’m usually super meticulous and wait until the actual first day of the new season to decorate. I have a major work event on Saturday and know that I will not have the time or the energy this weekend to devote to changing things over so I spent a little time all week putting away my summer decor and putting out my Fall Decor. Fall is my favorite season, so I always do the most! 

Here is our Fall 2018 Decor outside of our home: 

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I actually plan to put one of my favorite crystals in the bowl the Buddha is holding on the porch. Although maybe not because if someone steals it I’m going to be upset!

Here is our Fall 2018 Decor inside of our home: 

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We moved in our house in 2012, and every year I’ve collected things to add to our collection. I usually get my goods from these places: Homegoods, TJ Maxx, Marshall, Target, Pier 1, Crate & Barrel and Michaels. Each year I add 1 – 2 pieces from the collection. I am looking for a sign to hang above our stove as well as an additional fall themed towel for our 1st Floor bathroom.

This Fall I will accomplish the following things:

(1) Scrapbooking some of the events from 2018 including our Family Reunion and our time in California.

(2) Finish my home organization project. The only other spaces I have to do are our bedroom closet (which currently houses our travel stuff), our basement backroom and our basement storage, our dining room built in. The list was double what is currently! Super excited to be over halfway done with this project. I truly believe that in order to make room for new things we have to clear out the old. I also believe that we have to literally make room in our lives for the things we want. This includes physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally making space. Longer post about that coming soon!

(3) Organize my digital photos and videos. I have over 20,000. I tried to start his project this summer and abandoned it after about 100 photos end. My goal is to get this project done before the end of the year.

(4) Host a few Vision Board Parties! I will have more information available the first week of October if you’re interested in booking me to host a Vision Party for you individually or for a group of your friends.

Those are my four major goals for this new season. New seasons always feel like a fresh start but especially Fall. Fall has traditionally been considered the season of Harvest. I’ve already started switching my Summer and Fall clothes out (although it was 90 degrees today in Chicago). I even purchased a few Fall colored Apple Watch Bands. I purchase most of my bands from Amazon.com. If you’re interested in which brands specifically I buy comment below or shoot me an e-mail donnienicolesmith@gmail.com and I’m happy to get you that information.

What are you looking forward to this Fall?

No More Playing Small…

“There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” ― Nelson Mandela

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Today, I participated in a panel on WCIU’s The Jam TV Show as an expert for job hunters. This opportunity came to me because of a social media post I made a few weeks ago about hiring talented people. Anyone who knows me knows that I’m usually a behind the scenes person. Don’t get me wrong, I can speak live on camera, but when given the option I usually push other people forward to speak, and only speak when I have to.

I was also joined by two powerhouses on today’s panel, and two women I have deep admiration and respect for – Adrienne Samuels-Gibbs and Kris Christian.

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Today I made a decision that I will no longer play small.

When given the opportunity to highlight my accomplishments, my plans or my voice, I will seize it.

When someone sees something good in me that I may not see in myself, I will be gracious and receptive, instead of dismissive or reductive about it.

When someone advocates for me, I will respond to that advocacy with affirmation and confirmation.

When the next step toward my dream is visible, I will take it and will not feel guilty about it or feel bad about it.

When a person wants to take a photo with me, I will pose with great posture and serve face, hip and lip.

I will nominate myself. I will write myself in. I will show up for myself.

I will walk in my calling when I hear my name called.

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You can watch the full segment here.

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Thank you to Producer Melissa Perez for the invitation!

Note: I am wearing my signature Crystal Ball Bracelet in Pyrite + Amethyst, as well as a necklace from Love Peridot. My custom jewelry and accessories can be purchased here.

 

 

Designs By DNS… My New Jewelry Collection

In the spring of 2014, my friend Dana Todd Pope complimented me on the jewelry I had on at the time. She also told me that my accessories are always amazing and that one day I’d “design my own collection.” I remember feeling so good that someone even noticed and my friend Dana is an incredible artist so the compliment meant even more coming from her.

When I was in High School I had a job working at Marshall Fields at the Flagship store in downtown Minneapolis. My assignment? The accessories counter. I sold belts, scarves and other outfit accents. I enjoyed when my clients of all ages would come in and need my assistance finding the perfect scarf or belt to go with their outfits. I was about 16 years old and it was then that I learned how the accessories really make the outfit.

I remember being into crystals as a little girl, but recently returned back to my love of them. I have a great collection of loose stones but my favorite way to work with the energy of the stones is through wearing them. I’ve amassed a pretty impressive collection of bracelets, pendants and rings. One of the things that I’ve always loved is purse charms, but I had not seen purse charms made out of crystals.

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Caption: My collection of non-crystal purse charms. I wear one of them daily with my bags. 

All summer I’ve been going through the process of learning about creating jewelry. Experimenting with different tools and supplies. I’ve finally gotten to a place where I’m ready to begin selling and launched my Designs by DNS collection yesterday! Here are some of the pieces currently available:

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Each of my pieces use Genuine Gemstones and each is created around certain energies. The purse charms are centered around the energies of love, abundance or prosperity. The bracelets are called Crystal Ball Bracelets and have a large stone surrounded by smaller beaded stones. I am excited that to bring another offering to the world and I am looking forward to helping people ROCK their magic as I have done and will continue to do! I’d also like to thank my friend Dana again for her words of affirmation AND for being my first customer! I’m so grateful and appreciate!

Currently I’m…

It’s been a while. Before diving in to a topic, I wanted to catch you up on what I’ve been up to. I’m planning to get back into my weekly routine again. As you will see below this Summer has been intense!

Reading… I’ve been reading social media primarily and spiritual books. I created a list on Twitter called Sources of Light. Here are the Twitter Handles currently included on that list in no particular order:

  • @TheSerpentCast
  • @MillennialTarot
  • @OshunsM
  • @Neptunebbys
  • @AmeliaQuint
  • @thejessicadore
  • @blackgirlinom
  • @LalahDelia
  • @drcrystaljones
  • @blksoltheory
  • @TatiannaTarot
  • @jessicalanyadoo
  • @moonandquartz
  • @thehoodwitch
  • @TheMidheaven
  • @oldewaysbrujo
  • @ashleighdjay
  • @graphicMedium
  • @starsmoonandsun
  • @angelicabastien
  • @JSoAbove
  • @TheMeccanism
  • @heymysticmamma
  • @chaninicholas
  • @GabyHerstik
  • @YungKundalini
  • @amberjfinney

The nice thing about the Twitter List Feature is that you can name your list whatever you want and then you can add whichever handles you want to it. When you click on the list, you will only see the timelines of those who have been added.

Playing… More than last Summer, I have been really being intentional about getting out in Chicago. I attended Pitchfork Festival to see Chaka Khan, Dram and Lauryn Hill, and I also have gone to a few social events including Sophistiratchet Radio’s Brunch-n-Trap Event (thanks to my Bestie Jamila for the invite).

Watching… My favorite TV Shows currently on the air are Queen Sugar, Love Is, Insecure & Power. The season finales of Queen Sugar and Love Is aired this week, so they won’t be back until 2019, but one of my other favorite shows Greenleaf comes back next week. Most of my favorite shows are on OWN (Oprah Winfrey Network). It is so encouraging to see a black woman be able to green light and provide a platform for such rich, beautiful content about black people. I pray that as I pursue and achieve my personal goals that I can continue to make room and create opportunities for others.

Trying… Honestly I’ve been removing the word “try” from my vocabulary. I believe that “try” is like a chicken exit to not do something. Either it is… or it isn’t. If I am still in “try” mode there is usually something else there to unpack… fear, reluctance, etc.

Cooking… My hubby was away more often than he was home for most of 2018. He has been home for about a month and I have been practically living in my kitchen. This week alone I made 3 new recipes – Spinach Enchiladas, Chicken Gumbo (I bought boneless or filet chicken thighs and non-pork Chicken Andouille Sausage). and Tonight I’m making Teriyaki Wings. I won’t link to the recipe until I taste it to make sure it is actually good! The first two recipes will definitely be in regular rotation.

Eating… I’ve been eating well. Drinking more water and cutting out sugar. I’ve set some health goals for my birthday in January and eating well is a big part of my ability to achieve those goals.

Drinking… Since I’ve been hanging out more socially, I’ve discovered that my favorite alcoholic drink besides Moscato Di’Asti, and Prosecco is a Mai Tai.

Calling… my bestie more often. We have the best conversations…

Texting… using lots of Emojis and GIFs.

Pinning… I’ve been thinking a lot about my Fall Wardrobe. The weather today felt very Fall-like. Fall is also my favorite season. You can check out my latest Pins here.

Tweeting… I’ve been super active on all of my social media platforms. My favorite thing to do is watch TV and Tweet at the same time. You find the hashtag for the show to see what everyone else is saying and you can contribute to the conversation. Most of the time I’m laughing and having super insightful and reflective conversations with people who are taking in the same content. It’s pretty amazing.

Crafting… I’m working on a major craft project that involves crystals and gemstones. I’m hoping to have some things to unveil no later than the beginning of October.

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Caption: Beads for an upcoming project. 

Scrapping… My honey and I took the most epic road trip. We drove from LA to Tucson, AZ, to Marfa, TX, to Dallas, TX to my family reunion in Atkins, Arkansas, and back home to Chicago. We drove 7 – 8 hours during the day and then would hang out in a different town each night. We had a chance to see places in America that we’d never see, catch up and spend some good quality time together. I’m excited to scrapbook that trip. My husband jumped out of a plane for the 60th Annual Air and Water Show with the Golden Knights. I have of ton of pics. I have to order prints from my favorite Printer – Persnickety Prints and then I can get busy.

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Doing… Exercise. I’ve been back in the saddle for two weeks now and it feels great. Someone asked me if I’d gone Vegan recently because my skin looks so good. I said no, but have significantly increased my water intake and I’ve added exercise back into my life.

Going… Connected to my craft project I’ve found a wholesale Bead Store in Downers Grove that I’d like to go to. First I need to make a list of the beads I’d like to purchase.

Loving… Life. This has been a great summer.

Discovering… myself. I finished up a journal that started in April of 2017 recently. I started writing in new journal today and look forward to continuing to work on and with myself.

Enjoying… So every night before I go to bed, I usually watch my two favorite Instagram Comedians – @iamzoie and @yep_im_kajun. I really enjoy falling asleep laughing every night and the first thing I remember when I wake up is going to bed laughing!

Thinking… As the organization I’ve founded Art of Culture Inc. has been undergoing a rebrand from Donda’s House Inc. it has given me the opportunity to really comb through our business model, our infrastructure and our future. I can’t wait to share publicly some of the things I’ve been thinking about! Stay tuned…

Feeling… productive! The sun is in Virgo, and since my Moon is in Virgo, this feels like a really good time for me. Eclipse season really tore me up! I’ve been feeling grounded and rooted and I am certain that is because of the energy of the earth sign!

Hoping for… I’m doing some consulting work and I just put in a bid for a major client. I am hopeful that the contract will come through as I am super excited about what I can bring to the table for them!

Listening to… my Spotify workout playlist almost daily and “Whipped Cream” by Ari Lennox. I’ve also had “Mood” by dvsn on repeat and “Ooh Nah Nah” by SiR featuring Masego.

Celebrating… my company’s 5th year Anniversary was 8/1! We’re planning a super cool Pop Up Event on 9/30! We’re also planning for our first gala in February.

Smelling… I burn a Frankincense and Myrrh Incense Stick every morning when I first wake up and I believe that is my favorite scent right now. I’m also loving the Black Cherry Merlot candle from Bath & Body Works.

Thanking… God, my ancestors and my loved ones for holding me down and making me feel so loved.

Considering… Halloween Costumes. Think I’m going to take a trip to NOLA with the hubby for Halloween. I haven’t been since Mardi Gras and I usually go every 3 – 4 months! It’s been 5 months and way too long.

Finishing… our rebranding work. My amazing team and volunteers have been meeting with me weekly for 90 minutes – 2 hours to discuss updating our documents, policies, mission & vision, etc. We present our work to our larger community on Saturday and have an internal deadline of September 1st for everything to be done.

Starting… two new Media Projects. Hubby and I are starting a podcast together soon and we’re working on a book. More details coming soon about both!

Fashion Inspiration

I have been catching up on one of my favorite TV shows, The Crown, and I came across this beautiful outfit:

I believe that my favorite decade for Women’s Fashion was the 1960s! The looks are so timeless!!! Here are some more images:

I love shopping at thrift & consignment stores! Clothing was constructed so much better back then to me. I hope you’re enjoying your Sunday!

How To Practice More Self Love

According to the National Science Foundation, “the average person has about 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day. Of those, 80% are negative and 95% are exactly the same repetitive thoughts as the day before.”

What this means is that every single day, the average person is thinking the same ugly, disturbing thoughts about themselves, other people and the world. This also means that we are basically repeating the same cycles, living the same life and going through the motions every single day.

I am here to interrupt my regularly scheduled program, and yours too. The human brain is a POWERFUL mechanism… think about all of the things that exist because of its brilliance! From the time I turned 25 until about now, I’ve been on this intense path of rewriting my script. I am now 6 months away from my 35th birthday, and now more than ever, I have this intense desire to share what I’ve learned.

How To Practice More Self Love

  • Write a love letter to yourself.  What do you love about yourself? Why are you proud of yourself? When was a time that you came through for yourself in a bind? What makes you beautiful? What is something that you have or can do that no one else has or can do?
  • Write down affirmations and at regular intervals read them. It is not always easy to just think positive thoughts. Sometimes we need tools. Take some index cards and copy down words of encouragement and positive affirmations. Take them out of your bag and read them at the top of every hour. Read them before meals. Read them when you first wake up and when you go to bed.
  • Listen to music that is affirming. Create a playlist of songs that are inspirational and motivational. I have a few of these playlists and will type them up and share them out later this week. I’ll share three of my favorites. “Flawless” by Beyonce. “Satisfaction” by Eve. “Brown Skin” by India Arie. Make these songs a regular part of your routine to combat the negative thinking that happens.
  • Express love and gratitude to others. When someone does something nice for you, send them an e-mail of gratitude describing what they did and how it made you feel. If someone inspires you online, send them a DM or a message about how grateful you are. Gratitude opens up the portal for more blessings, not because you’re going to necessarily get anything new, but because you will start to realize the many ways that your life is abundant… that your prayers are being answered… that your life today is better than it was yesterday… a week ago… five years ago… Gratitude is like putting on another pair of glasses. It changes everything.

So those are the nice and somewhat easy ways to express self-love. Here are more ways to express self-love that may be more challenging. At least these have been more challenging to me.

  • Saying no. Peer pressure is a motha. I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve agreed to something or said yes just because I wanted to save face, not disappoint someone or not hurt someone else’s feelings. No is one of the first words that we learn, but it is also one that as we get older we start to use less and less. You have the right to determine how you want to spend your time. Who you want to spend time with. The other person will live… and so will you.
  • Allowing your self the grace of changing your mind, walking away or opting out. This is an extension of saying no. Sometimes how we feel today is not how we feel tomorrow. Circumstances change. Our energy changes. Our needs change. If something is not right for you, you have to right to exit or leave it alone. Now you have to do this with great sensitivity because everything that we do impacts other people, but do what you need to do. If you are quitting your job, and there is a two week notice, don’t quit today out of spite (unless your safety or health is at risk). Give them the two weeks notice and move along gracefully and graciously.
  • Value what you bring to the table. Don’t undersell yourself or cut yourself short. If your time is worth $1,000 an hour, then that’s what it’s worth. When I am going into a situation where I have to negotiate, I sometimes write out a list of what I’m bringing to the table and a dollar amount for each. I have an idea of what I’m willing to accept at the minimal and why. This is something that doesn’t just work for me in my head. I literally have to write it out in advance of the negotiation and before making a final commitment, I always say, “I will get back to you.”
  • Allowing yourself time. I picked up this tip from Myleik Teele. You can always ask for more time to think about something. Don’t allow people to pressure you into giving them a response or an answer. I often use the terms “bandwidth” or “capacity.” I will tell someone, I’m working on limited capacity. I need time to consider. Time is our most precious commodity. Now it is important that you honor what you say you’re going to do if you ask for more time. At least you are giving yourself the gift of more consideration, the opportunity to weigh out and explore more options, the opportunity to research, so that when you do return with a response or a decision, it is well thought-out and you can live with it.
  • Charting your own path. One of my favorite quotes is “comparison is the thief of joy.” Put two people who do exactly the same job side by side. I guarantee that they will describe very different pathways. Put two people who were born on the same day. I guarantee that their lives will look very different. There are 7.4 billion people on this planet. That means there are 7.4 billion different ways of thinking… of dreaming… of resting… of being fulfilled. Your life is yours alone and you have the right to live it however you want to.
  • Treating your physical body well. This one is probably the hardest one on the list for me personally. I often go with what feels (and tastes) good for my body, not necessarily what is good for my body. This looks like an addiction to sugar. An aversion to working out and a physical body that isn’t worked out enough. I am still working on this one, but I know that it starts with my mind and being more balanced in how I approach what I eat and what I do(in terms of physical activity). If any of you guys have had success with kicking the sugar addiction, please leave your comments below. If you have been able to make working out a regular part of your routine, please let me know how. My goal is to lose my age (35 lbs) before my birthday.
  • Stop waiting for someone else to come along to receive the type of love you want. Take yourself out on dates. Buy yourself nice gifts. Love on yourself (literally and figuratively). Write love letters to yourself. Say nice things to yourself (like “Good morning gorgeous.” “You can do this.”). Wrap yourself in nice fabrics (my favorite is cashmere and satin). Get massages and facials regularly. Eat good meals. Buy yourself chocolate covered strawberries. Buy yourself flowers. This pattern of self love will only be reflected to you when people come into your life. I’ve been blessed with a very healthy and affirming marriage. I have amazing friends who love and support me. I truly believe that is because I started doing all of those things for myself, so when people come into my life, they pick up on the cues. I am totally and completely in love with myself… but that was not always the case. I encourage you to be totally and completely in love with you. It’s not a permanent thing. Every day I have to wake up and first make the decision to love myself and then do actions that confirm and make that decision true.

 

 

From It Will Be To It Is So: Octavia Butler and Erykah Badu

According to Biography.com:

Octavia E. Butler was born on June 22, 1947, in Pasadena, California. She studied at several universities and began her writing career in the 1970s. Her books blended elements of science fiction and African-American spiritualism. Her first novel, Patternmaster (1976), would ultimately become one of the installments in the four-volume Patternist series. Butler went on to write several other novels, including Kindred (1979) as well as Parable of the Sower (1993) and Parable of the Talents (1998), of the Parable series. She continued to write and publish until her death on February 24, 2006, in Seattle, Washington.

She was honored with a Google Doodle this past Friday, on her 71st birthday:

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When I woke up yesterday I came across this tweet:

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The tweet then provided links to images of Octavia Butler’s journals:

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Things I noticed about Ms. Butler’s notes:

(1) The power of repetition: Both in individual entries, she repeated herself and across different entries she repeated herself. In some cases she was general, in other cases she was more specific, but the fruit of what she wanted to manifest remained consistent.

(2) The power of first-person. She used the term “I” often. Manifestation isn’t about what other people do or think. It is about what we do, and what we think about ourselves and our futures.

(3) She used both present tense and future tense. In one entry she focused on what will be… in the other entry she wrote as if she was living the life she wanted to manifest. “I will be…” versus “I am…” Sometimes there is a difference between what we want to happen and what is happening. We become powerful when we close that gap and make what will be… be.

(4) She focused not just on the what – becoming a best-selling author and her financial goals, but she thought about the how to do that. “Tell stories filled with facts…” “Make people feel, feel, feel.” She also focused on what would happen when she manifested her goal. How it would impact her life and the lives of those she cared about. Manifestation doesn’t just happen in a vacuum. We are not isolated beings. We were born into families… we live in neighborhoods…. we are a part of communities. These concentric circles are impacted by our action (or inaction). It is important that we consider how our path will impact those closest to us. When I garden I don’t just plant flowers. I have to dig a whole in the ground (disrupting the growth of grass), I have to add water, weeds often grow alongside or in the same soil as the flowers and ultimately have to be pulled. Life is an orchestra of which we play one tiny part…

Today I encourage you to begin thinking about your most important life’s work. What is that you want to bring into existence? Who will be impacted by the realization of this thing? What do you need to do specifically day-to-day to make it happen? How will you get there…

Research shows that wealthy people have multiple streams of income. What are your streams? Which obstacles do you need to remove from your life so that the streams flow freely?

Finally, I want to leave you with this example from 15 year old Erykah Badu:

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Write it down. Take a picture. Spell It out.

It is so….