How do you know what you believe about yourself?
Pay attention to what you say out loud or to yourself when you make a mistake. Watch out for things like:
“You’re/I’m so stupid.”
“You/I always mess things up.”
“Of course you/I messed that up.”
Pay attention to what you say out loud or think when you are given an opportunity.
Watch out for things like:
“I can’t believe they picked me.”
“I’m just lucky.”
“This will never happen again.”
Really evaluate what you allow people to say to you or around you. Especially friends and loved ones. There is a difference between someone who has a healthy sense of skepticism and someone who has malicious intent. It hits your ears and your heart differently.
Notice the people who are always critical but not complimentary. Those who try to make you think or feel like you can’t do anything right.
Distance yourself from the people who always have something negative or pessimistic to say about you, your job or the world. Especially when you’re sensitive to such messages. That is a part of the reason why I am not a fan of most broadcast news. The constant stories of death and doom really affect my mood and I have to do what I have to do to protect my peace, so most of the time I turn it off.
Pay attention to your feelings when you’re scrolling social media. If you notice yourself:
– Constantly comparing your life to the life of others.
– With strong feelings of jealousy or resentment.
– Feeling the need to have what someone has in terms of material possessions.
– Being a Social Media thug or bully.
It may be time to detox from social media for a day, a week or longer to cleanse your palette. When I’m feeling off spiritually, mentally or emotionally, I stay off of social media. I turn to spiritual sources or face to face encounters to balance it all out.
How do you feel about spending time alone? If you feel super uncomfortable, there may be some negative feelings that you are harboring about yourself. Things to watch out for:
– What will other people think about me?
– People will notice that… (irrational ideas about people being able to see an area of vulnerability or weakness).
Pay attention to how you treat your body. When faced with stress do you turn to healthy or unhealthy practices?
– drugs or alcohol to numb whatever pain exists.
– Over or under rating to feed or starve the pain (I personally struggle with this).
– Unprotected sex or sexual experiences that you would not do or be comfortable with if you weren’t feeling stress.
The law of attraction states “you attract what you believe you deserve.” It does not mean you attract what you say. It does not mean you attract what others believe or even say.
Pay attention to what you truly believe about yourself & whatever you need to do to transform those beliefs, do it.
Go inside of yourself and ask yourself why. Questioning oneself helps to get to the bottom of lots of issues.
See a therapist & talk to a counselor. That objective (& professional) set of eyes is helpful to uncover & reveal certain things that may be suppressed.
Notice the patterns. When you notice the patterns you can predict (and change) future behavior.
Think about your whole self. We sometimes think that because we have our mental life’s together, everything else is in tact. Think about your emotional self, your spiritual self, your physical self. Even if one area is off, it has the potential to negatively impact the other areas.
Pay attention to your parents, family and circle. I believe that not only do we inherit our looks from our parents, we also inherit a program from them. Many mental illnesses are genetic, and our parents stuff often becomes our stuff. Unpack it! When it comes to the people we choose to spend time with. It’s only natural that they impact you. You’re breathing the same air. Their waves (vibe) come crashing into yours & your waves often sync to theirs, depending on who has the strongest vibes. I believe that is what makes group think so dangerous. All of they group energy syncs up, for better of for worse.
You cannot attract what you don’t believe you deserve. I hope this was helpful. I wrote the title of this blog last night before bed & woke up abnormally early & felt the urge to finish this piece & publish it. I hope it’s helpful for you!