They Gone Get These Hands…

Donda’s House Inc. turns 4 years old on August 1st. This is the first summer where we were able to hire a small team beyond our paid instructors to support our work. In the past, we have had to rely heavily on generous volunteers and our active alumni to support our initiatives. This summer we have a small team of about 6 – 7 people who work our events.

Caption: A short clip of the view outside of the restaurant, via my Snapchat.

About a week ago, I joined my husband for a two week work trip, and at the end of our work trip, we are taking a one week vacation to another country to celebrate his 40th birthday. That makes 3 weeks that I will be away from Chicago. In the past, I have felt like I couldn’t travel as often and that I had to be there personally to ensure that everything went smooth. In fact, I would feel a huge sense of guilt if I couldn’t personally be there for a Donda’s House class or event.


Caption: Hubby and I in Delaware at a delicious seaside seafood restaurant.

As an organizational leader, I have learned so much about myself over the last few years and the thing that I know for sure, is that I have to work to “replace” myself. Donda’s House has to be a well-oiled machine in that our infrastructure, our mission and our “culture” works, no matter who is at the helm and no matter if I am physically present or not.

So many organizations and institutions suffer from “founder” syndrome. Founder Syndrome is what happens when organizational founders can’t and don’t “get out of the way” to make room for innovation and for growth. Founders can also be notorious for being micro-managers. I never want to be that. If something were to ever happen to me, my hope is that others will carry the work forward and that the organization will continue to grow and support creatives as the mission intends. I want people to be able to attend a Donda’s House event and they not know (or care) whether I am there or not.


Caption: My hubby’s doing some work with DJ Jazzy Jeff. This is where all of the magic happens, in Jeff’s studio 🙂

I wanted to share some tips for those who are in a situation where you are expected to empower a team or where you feel like you personally have to be involved in every single aspect or detail of your organization and need to exercise the art of letting go more often. Some people call it delegating. I don’t even consider it just delegating, because I want people to be empowered to make decisions and to be leaders. When you delegate something, you often intend for people to do it the exact same way that you would. My expectation is that it is equal to the way that I do it, or better!

(1) Hire people that you trust. If you hire and collaborate with people that you trust, it should be easier to let go. How do you know who you can trust? People who do what they say they are going to do (honor their word), people who seem equally (and sometimes more) passionate than you, people who have a good reputation and track record from other spaces, and people who have integrity and good character. When it comes to trust, your instincts will often be on point in terms of who you should and should not place your trust in.

(2) Communicate in writing & verbally. I believe in communicating with people the same message in multiple formats. Everybody processes and receives information differently. It is not uncommon for me to have a conversation with someone and then follow up with the same information via e-mail. It is also important to always have things in writing, just in case something goes wrong, it will be easy to find out where the breakdown happened to avoid something similar happening in the future. Good communication is the best “accountability” measure that you have in place.

(3) Hire against your weaknesses or areas of challenges. We all have areas for improvement or things that don’t come easy for us. It is important to bring people on your team who have those areas as strengths so that your entire team can bring the whole package. If everybody around you including you has a background and a strength in PR, your marketing & PR will be incredible, but your accounting may lack. If everybody around you has great visual and graphic design capabilities but you don’t have anyone who can write, then your business will suffer. Know thyself, and hire those who have your weaknesses as strengths to create a mighty, well-rounded and powerful whole package.

(4) Set clear goals and outcomes. From your events, to your social media following to your programs, and your products, you should always have a target for whatever you are doing. What is your north star? What is your why? If you are having an event, how many people do you hope to attend? What do you want people to get out of the event or experience? For products, how many units do you hope to move in what time period? You should have goals as the CEO or organizational leader, and then your team should have collective goals.

(5) Everything happens that’s supposed to happen. Let go of the fact that you can control every single thing, because you cannot. We recently had a fundraiser that just so happened to fall on the same date as a huge NBA game. We had the fundraiser date set before the NBA game was announced and there was nothing that we could do about it. There will always be circumstances and things that come up that impact you and your work, and all that you can do is try to maintain a positive and calm attitude, and handle it.

The world should get your hands and the hands of as many people who share your value system and your desired change for the world. We need all of the hands that we can get and the more hands that we have, the better we are and the quicker we can see positive change happening for us all!

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