My home girl Javetta wrote a beautiful piece called “A Response to Dark Girls from a Light Girl ” in response to The Oprah Winfrey Network’s “Dark Girls.” I was both moved by her piece and it made me think about how we all have pain, the question is what do you do with that pain?
At the age of 12 I was raped. I could have tucked that pain in my heart and allowed it to decay me from the inside out. Instead I became a volunteer for other young women who were rape victims. Similarly, I used to volunteer for an organization called Federal FORUM which raised money for and provided mentors to children of incarcerated parents. My work with those organization allowed me to positively influence some young people who I still hold close to my heart even today. Ultimately, I took my pain and incinerated it into something useful.
You can allow your pain to make you bitter, distrusting, dishonest, or downright nasty. Or, you can use your pain to fuel your dreams or let it explode into a large ball of forgiveness. Pain is inevitable. The people you love the most can sometimes surprise you the most in a negative way, but you can’t allows someone else’s pain, insecurity or ignorance to transfer onto you. If you’re in pain write about it and talk about it. Acknowledge it and keep it moving. Keep it moving does not necessarily mean to move on, as it may not be time for that. The key is to stay active, engaged and ready!!! So, what are you going to do with your pain?