What Are You Gonna Do With That Pain?


My home girl Javetta wrote a beautiful piece called “A Response to Dark Girls from a Light Girl ” in response to The Oprah Winfrey Network’s “Dark Girls.” I was both moved by her piece and it made me think about how we all have pain, the question is what do you do with that pain?

At the age of 12 I was raped. I could have tucked that pain in my heart and allowed it to decay me from the inside out. Instead I became a volunteer for other young women who were rape victims. Similarly, I used to volunteer for an organization called Federal FORUM which raised money for and provided mentors to children of incarcerated parents. My work with those organization allowed me to positively influence some young people who I still hold close to my heart even today. Ultimately, I took my pain and incinerated it into something useful.

You can allow your pain to make you bitter, distrusting, dishonest, or downright nasty. Or, you can use your pain to fuel your dreams or let it explode into a large ball of forgiveness. Pain is inevitable. The people you love the most can sometimes surprise you the most in a negative way, but you can’t allows someone else’s pain, insecurity or ignorance to transfer onto you. If you’re in pain write about it and talk about it. Acknowledge it and keep it moving. Keep it moving does not necessarily mean to move on, as it may not be time for that. The key is to stay active, engaged and ready!!!  So, what are you going to do with your pain?

2 thoughts on “What Are You Gonna Do With That Pain?

  1. YES, Mrs. Smith! Thank you for calling us all out to the carpet to deal with our pain in a way that will cause healing instead of more pain. It is very true that everybody has experienced pain, but it’s what we chose to do with that pain that determines how the narrative of our lives will read. I am so grateful to God for His love and placing people like you in my life whose love is an extension of His to remind me of what this life is really about!

    1. Your post was just so beautifully human. It was a reminder that everyone experiences pain, we just have to learn how to heal it! Thanks again for that beautiful piece which inspired this piece!!! God knows what he’s doing!!!

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s