Carrying hate is a much heavier burden than bench pressing forgiveness. It would be ridiculous for me to suggest that I’m not carrying baggage – we all are. Whether it is a situation from childhood – perhaps a bitter custody battle, absentee or abusive parent or even the social circus that we formally call High School. It could be the fight that we had with a family member who we no longer talk to, the best friend who betrayed us or the insensitive comment that one of our teachers or professors from the past made. No matter what it was – it initially hurt. It felt like either an uppercut to the chin or a slap on the side of the face. It may have even felt like being pulled by the ear or a quick pinch. No matter what it felt like initially it has now become hatred or hatred’s ugly siblings bitterness or resentment and those bags are difficult to carry! And Lord help you if you’re trying to take flight and actually leave the ground with all that mess.

Forgiveness is hard. You have to replay the situation in your mind over and over again. It may require a conversation with the one person you swore you’d avoid for the rest of your life. You may even find some culpability on your part and sometimes realizing & admitting a mistake or misjudgment can be the hardest thing to do in the world. Forgiveness is like bench pressing. It is difficult to do but it builds your character and it is ultimately better for your health. It hurts
Iike heck but after a while your capacity to do it will get better and you will become stronger, faster and smarter because of it.

I don’t know what’s in those bags that you’re carrying but I can assure you that if it looks anything like hate your life, the lives of your children and the lives of those you come in contact with will be better if you just put those bags down!

Now do me a favor and go listen to a song called “Bag Lady” by Erykah Badu and let me know your testimony!

Co-Founder & Executive Director of Donda's House, Inc. Wife to Che "Rhymefest" Smith. Believer. Writer. Scrapbooker. ΣΓΡ.

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