My husband and I were watching a documentary called “Without a King” about the current King of Swaziland Mswati III. Swaziland is the only country in Africa that has a monarchy. King Mswati III was the son of King Sobhuza II who had 110 wives and 240 children and came into power at the tender age of 12. One of the issues the documentary explored was polygamy, which has been an ongoing debate that I have had for as long as I can remember as I am personally both suspicious of and against it. While watching the documentary I started thinking about rapper Dwayne “Lil Wayne” Carter. Now Dwayne is not quite a polygamist because he only had one wife.
Dwayne has four women that he has procreated with – Antonia (who was also his ex wife), Lauren London, Nivea and Sarah. Lauren London is an actress famous for her breakout role in ATL. Nivea is a R & B singer whose most famous single was “Don’t Mess With My Man,” Sarah is a model and Antonia was Dwayne’s childhood sweetheart, the mother of his first child and the only one he married.. The whole reason why I am sharing this story is because of the harmony between the four women. Trashy journalists often try to pit one woman against the other but from all accounts the women have accepted that they all have children who are fathered by this one individual.
Recently Antonia was remarried and both Nivea and Lauren were there to support. Additionally, Dwayne publicly wished her and her new husband well and said something along the lines of “welcome to the family.” All of the children (who are half-siblings) know each other, and even his oldest daughter speaks fondly of the other mothers. In one episode of Antonia’s reality show, her daughter said “I admire Nivea, she is like my big sister.” Her mother in an interview said, “We talk. We have a great relationship. I’m good with all of them. I try to keep the kids cool because they’re all in the same situation, so we don’t have time for any drama.” She also said “He tells her about it, so I just go along with the flow. He’s a great father.” She continued “I didn’t grow up with my dad’s kids and I don’t even know half of them and I don’t want that for Reginae. I want her to have a good relationship with her brothers and be able to see them whenever, go to their house, they come to my house and that’s the kind of relationship we all have.”
A friend said that Dwayne is in the situation that he is in because of his financial security, so the women are not “fighting” for limited resources. Perhaps, but I’d also credit their maturity and selflessness. In situations where two people procreate it sometimes creates a war when the other partner moves on. It is one thing to get divorced or break up when there are no children involved. It is an entirely different thing to do so when there are children involved. While “the mothers” may not be best friends, I do think that it is in the best interest of the children that they are respectful of one another, their respective roles and the importance of the children being able to spend time together as a unit with their father (or mother). Ultimately you can’t change the past, all you can do is deal with the reality of right now and I feel that is exactly what is happening with Mr. Carter and the mothers of his children.