You’ve been with your guy for a long time, you’ve met the fam and perhaps you’re coed roommates. Here is a list of things to think about before you jump the broom:
1. The me becomes we. Many of decisions that you make must now include your partner’s perspective. Everything you do and everything your partner does becomes a mirror reflection for the rest of the world. Are you ready for that kind of accountability?
2. Compromise replaces conflict. A marriage will not work if you are not willing to compromise or “give.” Sometimes it’s as simple as not making something minor an issue (do you really care about that one grain of rice that your sweetie forgot to sweep up?) or as major as coming to a happy medium (giving up your job temporarily to stay at home with the kids and become an entrepreneur vs. sending your child to daycare). Bickering, nagging and nit-picking are all unhealthy for your marriage.
3. Unconditional love. You know without a shadow of a doubt that this man/woman is “the one.” In other words, you’re not settling for something less than you want or desire. If your economic status changes, if he/she becomes handicapped or captures a disease – would you still love him/her? Is it difficult to imagine life without this person and that feeling is reciprocal? Unconditional means without pause. It means loving someone in spite of their shortcomings.
Marriage is not to be taken lightly. It is the longest commitment that you can/will ever make. It is the most important contract that you will ever sign (oh yeah… that “marriage license” is a law-binding agreement). It can be the best or the worst decision that you will ever make.
Are you ready for marriage?
Age at marriage for those who divorce in America
|Under 20 years old||27.6%||11.7%|
|20 to 24 years old||36.6%||38.8%|
|25 to 29 years old||16.4%||22.3%|
|30 to 34 years old||8.5%||11.6%|
|35 to 39 years old||5.1%||6.5%|
According to the chart above, the older you are when you marry, the less likely you are to get a divorce, so in other words… Time is the best thing you can give yourself…