Originally posted on old site: November 1, 2009
There are many things that occupy my mind but nothing occupies it more than thoughts about love. So love is:
1.SACRIFICE To sacrifice is to give up something that you want or desire for nothing. It is self-less, considerate and involves temporarily placing someone else’s needs above your own.
2.TIME Time is the only thing that can’t be regained or returned. We value most what we spend our time doing. When you love someone you (as often as possible) give them your undivided attention and it is never a burden, it is something you enjoy doing. Also within this area is patience and realizing that no one is perfect.True love embraces imperfection and is willing to wait as growth & evolution occurs.
3.RESPECT Honoring the humanity inside of another being. Listening without interrupting, helping the person avoid (or deal with) public/social embarrassment and never causing it, keeping one’s word, and never doing anything intentional to put your partner’s physical, emotional or spiritual well-being in jeopardy. Respect is truly self and relationship preservation. It involves putting down the ego and picking up the hero.
4.SUPPORT In the midst of vulnerability or uncertainty, love becomes the backbone to support whatever challenge pops up, without hesitation. Whether that support is financial or simply being a cheerleader for your partner’s dream, it is vital. Being supportive is about nurturing and massaging your partner’s mind, heart and body.
5.INTENTIONAL Real love involves assessing the present and making blueprints for the future. Similar to one’s own individual life, if you do not have mutual plans for the relationship, someone (or something) else does. No plans? SURPRISE, unplanned pregnancy. No plans? We can’t afford to pay our rent this month because we are living above our means. You and your partner have to be on the same page about where you’re going and what is the best way to get there.
True love is more than a feeling because remember feelings are temporary. True love is a conscious decision/choice to intertwine all areas of your life with another’s, good, bad & ugly.